Material for MAsT workshops

There are common features to all of BDSM, to all activities, and to all BDSM relationships. When we recognise these we gain a way of understanding what it is that we need to put into our BDSM, and what we can get out of it.

In this workshop, we look at these BDSM foundations and at how they apply to D&s relationships. Along the way we’ll look at how to focus our efforts to get more bang for our BDSM buck, at what can go awry, and at what we can do to avoid the more common problems.

There’s nothing in BDSM which precludes someone who identifies as a dominant from being the bottom in a piercing scene, nor is there any reason why a slave might not be in an entirely satisfying relationship as someone’s dominant or top.

Note that we’re not talking about switches here. What we’re talking about here are BDSM roles. We can define a role as a set of attitudes and behaviours which determine how we interact with our partners and which of our collective wants and needs we can meet and how we meet them.

The great breadth and depth of BDSM means that there is the possibility that it can offer clues, guidance or influence in many, if not all, aspects of life. Not everyone wants this, of course. Some people look at BDSM as just a kinky detour on the road to sexual satisfaction, and some people look to it occupying just a small and safe part of their lives. It can, however, be something which people embrace much more holistically. It can be their inspiration for growth, self development, and happiness in many areas of their lives.